Advice for the first-time vibrator buyer

Fact: Vibrators can help intensify anal, g-spot and clitoral orgasms (or any combination of these). Women use vibrators for a number of reasons, both to intensify sexual stimulation and to “find” certain pleasure-spots in their body. Whatever your reason for seeking a vibrator, please consider the different makes and models available- as all vibrators are designed for different uses. Of course, Va Va Voom is a great place to get advice- employees are friendly and full information to help you find the vibrator that fits your needs and body best. The more you know what you’re looking for, the better fit we can help you find. :)

A first time user does not want to choose the biggest possible dildo out there. Work your way up to that if you decide big is what you like; but for now, start at base size. Obviously, I am sitting at a computer and you are reading this in front of one, meaning I cannot ask you questions, but all of the following is important to consider when choosing a vibrator. For example, I cannot tell your age (some women are still living in their family homes and are seeking a quiet vibe they want to use alone, others are in their 50th year of marriage and don’t want to scare their husband); your experience (do you play with your girlfriend on a regular basis? You may be used to certain levels of penetration others may not be used to); or your sexual preference (do you both want to use it? Not recommended unless the vibrator is designed for two at once!). So please, consider these factors for yourself as we work through this process. Like all things, sexuality is flexible; it changes, diversifies, and is a PROCESS. Love it.

Another important question: What turns you on? Clitoral stimulation or deep (g-spot) stimulation? Anal stimulation? (Be careful when playing anally– always wash your hands and never play with anything else at the same time!) Have you tried any of these methods? Have you tried combining these methods? Vibrators are great for exploring how your pleasure-centers can be stimulated.  How about your vagina? How is it shaped? Everyone’s vagina is placed at a different angle in relation to the body. This means every vagina is different! Does it feel full with two fingers, one, or three? If you’ve decided that you must, must, must get a vibrator, it’s good to know how big you want it. Your first vibrator should be a comfortable size for your vagina. If this is your first vibrator, exploring enough to find out what you want can be really exciting!  Keep in mind that there are a lot of buttons and whistles and bells– but something basic can be a great introduction.

Stimulation for women can be better achieved through the circumference (that’s the “width” for those of us not recently in geometry) of the vibrator, not the length. There are one-foot-plus vibrators out there: these are usually for professionals or shows. For your first vibrator, stay away. Many g-spot vibrators are made longer so that the curve of the toy hits the right spot (about two inches on the inside top of your vagina– belly side).  What kind pleasure you seek will greatly influence the type of vibrator you wish to try. My recommendation: do not try to use a glass vibrator for your first experience. Glass can be an acquired taste and is sometimes too smooth and hard for first-time users.

Generally, a first-time vibrator buyer would probably enjoy a starter kit: Including a small-to-medium sized vibrator with a very simple jelly design so that there is stimulation, but not too much. The jelly vibrator is probably the most comfortable available. Oh the other hand, are vibrators made of the hard, plastic or glass, these just may not be flexible enough. My first vibrator came with a bit of a pointed and less-rounded head so it was easier to insert and felt more comfortable to begin using. I highly recommend this. A less-blunt headed toy actually feels gentle to use; so the size is less scary and much easier to adjust to.

Many women, if not all women, must adjust to the feel of a vibrator or anything inserted into their vagina (remember the first time you used a tampon?). However, this does NOT mean that a vibrator should ever, and I mean E-V-E-R hurt. If the vibrator you purchased hurts, DO NOT USE IT. That is definitely not the point of purchasing such a toy. If you discover that your toy just doesn’t fit you, try to find out why. Is it too curved? Too big? Blunt? This will help you make future decisions. Last but not least, please remember that you must use lubrication. If there is not enough lubrication (natural, silicone, or water-based), a vibrator will never feel good.

Purchase lube specifically designed for your toy, and, most importantly, your body. There are unscented, hygienic water-based lubes for those sensitive to silicone and perfumes or dyes (if you’re buying lube that you want to use with a toy, make sure that it is compatible– some silicone lubes and silicone toys SHOULD NOT be mixed– know your toy). There are lubes that come in every flavor and aroma if you’d like to taste and smell what you’re using and feeling. Sometimes it’s great to smell fruity or like a chocolate chip cookie, or to lick frosting-flavored fingers after you orgasm. The more senses you build up and use to achieve orgasm, the more intense it may be. And, I’m assuming that, besides reaching an orgasm with the use of a vibrator, you’d also like to reach an even better orgasm, or at least an amazing orgasm, every time you use your toy.

Vibrators can be used clitorally as well as inside the body. And any time you play with your clit, please remember that lube is key. You cannot get enough lube! Either work yourself up really well so that you can naturally dip and lubricate your clit, or use a water- or silicone-based lube. Oils can cause infection and are very un-hygienic. So please, don’t use that butter or baby oil– your vagina will thank you many times over.

A vibrator can be lightly-to-roughly applied to the clitoris to cause hella-intense orgasms. Some women prefer a vibrator with a rabbit/clitoral stimulator built-in so that both g-spot and clitoral orgasms can be intensified or achieved at once. If you’re pretty used to playing with your clit, you may want to start with a regular, basic vibe because you can use it internally or externally. If you like to feel full when playing with your clit, a basic starter vibrator can do very well even without the rabbit/clit stimulator.

If you’re picking a vibrator for better g-spot stimulation, there are g-spot specific vibrators with a “crook” or bend in the neck/shaft of the toy. Some toys literally flop around and vibrate. There are also pearl-drivers (with beads inside the “neck” of the toy to cause more stimulation). I could really go on forever describing the thousands of different toys, but just know– there are toys created for your specific wants.

Reminder: all you have to do is ask. If you don’t know what you want, we can help you figure out what you may enjoy best.

The final helpful tip for the first-time vibrator buyer: Please, please, please, PLEASE do NOT pick your first vibrator by color. If you like pink or purple or aquamarine; that’s fine. Picking this type of pleasure toy by color is a huge mistake (but once you know what you like, you can start your orange dildo collection :).

You want something that will do the job, do the job well, do the job differently when you like, and won’t die or short-circuit after two uses. Come in to see what vibrators we recommend– remember, we have to make sure every one of those babies works before we put it in the store, so we usually know the intensity and feel of just about anything Va Va Voom has in-stock. We also tend to know what brands make the best, longest-lasting and better-quality toys (packaging is not always everything– and in this case, that’s the rule, not the exception). But of course, you want to know how it will work as well. If you’re curious, just ask! We can take the toy out of packaging for you and run the toy so you know how it will work.

Explore. Learn what you want. Then tell us how we can help. Good luck and have a humming good time! (Cheesy, I am aware).

Rebecca

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